I would like to thank you all for coming today and sharing the celebration of my mother's life.
My mother was a wonderful woman and she taught me so many things. She showed me how to sew and how to match a plaid ... for those of you who sew, you know how difficult and important that is. She taught me how to cook, always buying whatever the ingredients were for any recipe I might want to try. And I had lots of fun trying and often failing at many... thanks mom. She taught me how to arrange flowers for a dinner party, how to set the table, how to prepare the house and how to get ready for guests in our home ... thanks mom.
Less fun, but sometimes as important, mom taught me how to make a bed, how to spring clean a house, how to wash a dog, how to paint a room, how to wrap a present, how to remove stains from laundry ... Mom was a whiz at removing stains.
She also taught how to talk to a baby in a carriage and how to make it laugh, and so much more. So too with caring for and taking food to a sick friend - and more importantly how to be a friend. She was fond of saying "If you want a friend, you must first be a friend". She knew how to look out for and care for the needs of other people and she could anticipate them with an uncanny sense. She was a good friend and neighbor. She had a big heart and the courage to act on it.
Mom also taught me how to garden, in particular how to plant bulbs and believe me she liked to plant bulbs! She also loved Christmas ornaments and she knew how to make them. Indeed she was of the old school and her hands could do magic on so many home activities that greatly enhance family values.
This wasn't formal learning ... it wasn't by any book... I learned these and so many other things from my mom, your friend, relative and neighbor ... by watching my mom because of who and what she was. For all of this I will always be grateful to her and it is one part of why I will miss her so.
Most of all my mom knew how to be a great wife and parent and how to love and care for her family, her friends, her neighbors and all others who touched her life, like all of you. Thank you for being here today.
An Anecdotal Eulogy from a dear friend
About fourteen years ago I was hiding behind a potted plant and this girl asked if I could help her be a parakeet, and I've been smitten with Gilda ever since.
When we met, we were just these two kids in a big city and, because we made each other laugh, people invited us places we never got to go before. And now? Well, I haven't mourned, and I haven't even cried yet, because even though she's dead, I just don't want her to die. I don't know why God makes people and then takes them back while they're still having fun with the life he gave them in the first place.
Just like I don't know if I'm supposed to celebrate the fact that Gilda was in my life, or feel cheated that she's not here anymore. But even though her body grew to betray her, spirits just don't die. And that's what Gilda was. Even as an adult, she was still a little girl who believed in fairy tales and that if she said "Bunny Bunny" on the first day of evey month, it would bring her love, laughter, and peace. Well, Gilda, this is June 1, and if you're in a place where you can't say it, I'll say it for you - "Bunny Bunny" - and I hope you're okay. I'm gonna miss you,
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IT MATTERS TO ME NOW by L.B. WILLNER (c)
YOU MADE THE WORLD SEEM RICH AND FULL TO ME WITH ALL YOUR WARMTH AND CHARM, AND I KNEW IF I KEPT CLOSE TO YOU (MOM/DAD) I COULD ALWAYS FIND MY WAY BACK. WHY I BELIEVED ALL OF THIS I DO NOT KNOW, I CANNOT SAY, I ONLY KNOW THAT IT ALWAYS SEEMED SO IN MY LIFE. AND LIFE AS A RESULT HAS BEEN GOOD TO ME.
SO HERE WE ARE TODAY (MOM/DAD), ME A LONELY AND VERY SAD (SON/DAUGHTER) AND ALL OF US AT YOUR FUNERAL. YOUR MANY FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS HAVE GATHERED TOGETHER TO PAY THEIR LAST RESPECT, TO CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE AND THEIRS WITH YOU. SOME WHO ARE HERE ARE QUITE UPSET AND SAD, OTHERS EVEN HAVE SHED A TEAR OR TWO, WHILE MOST EVERYONE IS FULL OF STORIES TO SHARE, ALL ABOUT YOU. I FEEL A CLOSENESS AND A LOVE FOR ALL ASSEMBLED TODAY, YET STILL I FEEL APART, A SOMEWHAT LOST CHILD, ONE WITH A BROKEN HEART.
TO YOU DEAR FRIENDS I WISH TO SAY: 'THANKS FOR COMING', THANKS FOR YOUR GOOD WISHES AND MOST OF ALL THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES OF (HARRY/SADIE) YOU SHARED TODAY. YOU'VE BEEN MOST KIND AND THOUGHTFUL. ESPECIALLY ABOUT WHAT THIS CELEBRATION MEANS TO YOU AS IT DOES TO ALL OF US. I THANK YOU FOR THAT.
(HARRY/SADIE) WOULD HAVE LIKED TO JOIN IN TODAY - TO BE WITH YOU - AS WELL. (HE/SHE) ALWAYS HAD A GREAT SENSE OF (OCCASION). ALSO A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR. (ENTER A PERSONAL STORY OR JOKE HERE IF APPROPRIATE). THAT'S HOW IT WAS FOR (MOM/DAD) AND ALL OF YOU WERE A BIG PART OF IT, INDEED YOU WERE (HIS/HER) LIFE. I THANK YOU FOR THAT TOO.
TODAY IS ABOUT SAYING GOODBYE TO (HARRY/SADIE) TO BID (HIM/HER) A HEARTFELT FAREWELL. I'VE SHED A LOT OF TEARS THESE PAST FEW DAYS THINKING ABOUT GOOD TIMES PAST, FUNNY THINGS THAT HAPPENED AND HOW MUCH IT ALL HAS MEANT TO ME AND I SUSPECT TO SOME OF YOU. SO LET US JOIN TOGETHER IN THIS MOMENT OF COMMEMORATION AND SPEAK AS ONE COMMUNITY OF A DEAR ONE WE HAVE JUST LOST. GOODBYE (HARRY/SADIE) WE KNEW YOU WELL AND CARED FOR YOU DEEPLY AND NOW YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY AWAY FROM ALL OF US, SO FARE THEE WELL.